PLAYDATES FOR THE PEOPLE: dating, friendship or both. we will try to find someone you’ll love.
join the match poolfor free btw · 18+ · living in singaporethe pool
is growing.
ok join our community events i’m sure it happens organically
show me eventswe have picked out all the questions from the GovTech First Date quiz + added more based on the stuff we felt was missing / our own theories about what makes people get along.
we’ll ask about your interests, values, lifestyle, social energy, communication, what you want from relationships, what you want your life to look like etc etc.
give us your birth time + birthplace too if you want to include the opinion of the stars.
basically, we can’t match you until there are enough people and we don’t want you to end up with some random person you have a 40% compatibility score with.
usually we’ll wait around 2 weeks to get to that number. otherwise, we’ll start a matching round once everyone we’re trying to match has at least 3 people in the pool who clear our minimum compatibility threshold.
if we can’t find enough people for you yet, you just stay in the pool until we can.
once we have enough people in the pool, we’ll send you up to 3 people we think you could get along with + a little explanation of why.
you’ll have 72 hours to indicate who you’d actually be interested in meeting.
if there’s a mutual yes, we’ll make the introduction. both people are taken out of the next matching round while they complete the meeting.
afterwards, they can say whether they want to keep seeing each other or rejoin the next match pool.
after running community stuff for the past year, we’ve met / reached a lot of people — and one thing we’ve noticed is that people often seem to gravitate towards a certain kind of person at certain kinds of community events.
sometimes it’s shared interests, but sometimes it’s more like… you care about similar things. or you’re trying to build similar kinds of lives. or you think about the world in a similar way. or you want similar things from the people close to you.
like, we know two people who seem pretty different on paper — one studies computer science + quantum computing, the other works on government-to-public partnerships — but they can talk openly and evenly with each other, and seem to share an idea of what love is for: a partner as a kind of co-investigator, and a place of peace where you can reflect and come closer to who you are together.
we know another pair who ended up starting a company together after we introduced them. what they seemed to share wasn’t a job or hobby, but a kind of reverence for community life — a desire to serve other people, create places where strangers can find each other, and a genuine enjoyment of the company of strangers.
and then there are people who seem to find each other because they’re digging towards the same questions — even if they have completely different emotional registers, interests, or ways of expressing themselves.
so we tried to turn some of that into questions.
we look at stuff like values, interests, lifestyle, social energy, communication, what you want from relationships, what you think relationships are for, what you want your life to look like etc etc — and then look across the pool for people who seem compatible.
the matching logic should get better with time and obviously observable traits can only be imperfect proxies of the complexity of being a human...
BUT U KNOW WHAT... THIS IS FREE AND WE SHOULD TRY IT!
WE WANT TO PLAYTEST RELATIONSHIP ALCHEMY!!!!!
OTHERWISE WHAT DO YOU THINK IS THE SUBSTANCE OF COMMUNITY? IT’S INTIMACY!
EVERYONE HAS SOMEBODY, BUT NOBODY CAN BE THAT SOMEBODY FOR EVERYBODY.
the foundation of community is friendship, and the foundation of friendship is intimacy...
WOULDN’T IT BE AWESOME IF WE COULD HELP PEOPLE FIND THEIR PEOPLE MORE DIRECTLY?
dating, friendship, or both! straight, gay, bi, whatever — you tell us who you’re open to meeting and we’ll only consider people where the eligibility works both ways. you need to be 18+ and open to meeting in Singapore.
no 😭 if we don’t have enough people you’re actually compatible with, we’ll just keep you in the pool until we do. we’d rather not match you than match you with some random person for the sake of hitting a quota.
we’re aiming for matching rounds around every 2 weeks, but the actual answer is: when the pool is big enough. we’ll reach out through your chosen email or Telegram when there’s a suitable match.
with the unnecessarily elaborate matching system described above. we look at values, relationship style, lifestyle, interests, social energy, communication, life direction and a bunch of other things. astrology is included if you opt in.
yes! after you submit, you can download a copy of your answers and save your private edit link. the link works for 30 days — we haven’t emailed it to you. if you made a mistake / changed your mind, use it to update your answers before the next matching round. after it expires, contact tomodachi@ourplayces.com for help. your answers stay in the pool; the link expiring doesn’t delete them.
the organising team uses your answers for matching. your match does not get your entire form lol. we’ll make it clear which profile / optional answers are shared, and ask before sharing your contact details or personal answers. there are no public profiles.
pls solemnly swear you won’t 😭 it would not be great for the pool and we’re not about to be cops about it. after you meet, we’ll also ask for private feedback about how accurately some of the self-described personality / interaction dimensions seemed to reflect the person you actually met. again: pls solemnly swear to be honest. the point is to help the matching get better, not to create a public rating system.